#008 Fit for Purpose

Are you fit for purpose? Are you prepared for the calling that is on Your life? Well, not to worry. Although God allows us to see bits and pieces regarding our destiny or calling, He never reveals the processes involved in arriving at the designated place. Sometimes processing can feel like you are “Jason and the Argonauts” and you have to past the 12 test of character to acquire the golden egg… or was it a golden fleece? I don’t really remember. You can think of any treasure hunt movie where the hero is trying to acquire an ancient artifact and there are sure to be some riddles, puzzling problems, test of character, and some dicey villain trying to derail you or prevent you from succeeding on your mission. This is certainly how we may feel sometimes on our journey to purpose. There are important reasons why God takes us through processing. In this week’s podcast we discuss the importance of going through and being a willing participant in the process.


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#007 Closed Doors and Grace for the Journey

Are you in a season of discovering purpose or discovering the next phase or purpose for your life? While on the journey for purpose we can face disappointments and experience emotional turmoil which often stems from closed doors. God gives us glimpses of our destiny but he never reveals the processes involved for the journey. The journey for purpose requires that we be steadfast in the midst of disappointments and emotional pain. Our minds filled with unending questions –when Lord when, what Lord what, how Lord how, and why Lord why, cause us angst.

We are required to be patient as God unfolds piece by piece our purpose and ultimate destiny. However, we can become so emotionally enthralled with the closed doors and lack of responses to our flurry of questions that we lose hope or belief in our destiny. We can’t grasp how any of what we’re going through is related to where we’re going to. It is a painful process but there is always grace on the journey.

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#006 The Root Cause of Comparison

Today I’m back with another purpose-related topic, “The Root Cause of Comparison”.  You will find this podcast categorized later under “Getting and Maintaining Focus”. In our search for purpose, we encounter numerous distractions. These distractions can be relationships or even our own insecurities. Comparison is one distraction that can detour us from purpose. At some point in our lives we have compared our looks, possessions, physical appearance, children, successes; not to mention our spiritual gifts and callings against that of others. I’ve engaged in comparison as it relates to my height. Those of you who know me, know that I am vertically challenged.

Regarding our God-given purpose, we engage in comparison and judge ourselves inadequate to carry out the call on our lives. While meditating on the concept of comparison, I needed to understand the root cause of comparison in order to effectively war against it with the Word.

In today’s podcast, I share two types of comparison though opposite in thought, share the same root cause, pride.

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“Purpose” Part 3 – A Personal Story of Uncovering Purpose w/ B. Doucette McCray

Everyone’s journey or story of uncovering purpose is different. Perhaps you have come to know your purpose in the kingdom in a unique way. Maybe you had a dream or a vision. Or perhaps someone spoke into your life with clear direction regarding your purpose. Or maybe you came to know your purpose through a trial, a hardship, or through an internal or external problem that needed to be resolved. Sometimes we can be intimated by others in our search. Oftentimes the enemy tells us, “God does not have a place for us in the kingdom, we are too old, or that we are inadequate or unworthy to be used by God.” The list goes on. The enemy definitely does not want us to walk, or even crawl for that matter, into purpose. Remember, how you start the journey or uncover purpose is not important: It is important that you start and finish the journey.

I am back with Part-3 in the series on “Purpose”. In Part 1, we addressed the question, Does God Have a Plan for My Life? In Part 2, we addressed the question, How Do I Uncover My Purpose? if you have not had a chance to listen to Part 1 and 2, I encourage you to take a minute and listen. I believe you will find something to encourage or help you on this journey. Today, I have asked a dear friend, Mrs. Bridget Doucette McCray, to share her personal story on uncovering purpose.

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#004 How Do I Uncover My Purpose?

Today I’m back with Part 2 in the 3-Part series on “Purpose”. Earlier this week we addressed the question, Does God Have a Plan for My Life? If you have not had a chance to listen to Part 1, please do so.  I believe you will find information that is helpful in your search for purpose.

Today we are answering the question How Do I Uncover My Purpose? Take heart because discovering purpose is a journey that will lead to your ultimate destiny. It is important to remember that while on the journey, purpose may look different in various seasons of life.
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#003 Purpose – Part 1: Does God Have a Plan for My Life

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Hello All, Today’s podcast is part 1 in a series on “purpose”. For many of us, delayed answers to prayer about purpose leave us wondering, not only what our specific purpose is, but whether or not we have a purpose at all. If you’ve read my “About Me” page, you know the primary purpose of this blog is to exhort others toward purpose. To join others together in a journey for purpose. The reason we search for purpose is so we can fulfill our destiny before returning home to be with the Father forever. So, today in our podcast, we are answering the question, Does God have a plan for my life?  If you’re like me, lack of purpose has gripped or currently holds you in a state of unfulfillment, depression, and discouragement. I know what it is like to seek God for purpose over an extended period of time, to walk by faith for one Word, and sometimes still question if you are hearing God precisely. To begin this series, I want to start by exhorting and reassuring every listener that God does indeed have a plan for your life. I pray that the scriptures resonate with you today and that you will spend time meditating on the scriptures shared today.

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Points to remember:

  1. God has and knows the plans that he has for you (Jeremiah 29:11)
  2. You must persistent in seeking God for your purpose (Jeremiah 29:13)
  3. God has already equipped you with everything you need to fulfill your purpose (Ephesians 1:3-11)
  4. God wrote all your days in the book before the foundation of the world (Psalms 139:16)

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#002 Save Your Money Honey: A DIY for Kitchen Cabinets


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I know that we all like to save money wherever we can. This is especially true about home renos and maintenance. I have been in my home for 17 years and I’d grown tired of my pink-ish standard builder cabinets. A few years ago, I did a small renovation, removing part of a pantry to add additional counter space, adding tile back splash, granite countertops, and new appliances. However, I didn’t change my cabinets. I did investigate the cost and process for new cabinets and cabinet refacing and admit I was a little shocked by the price for both. I put the project on the back burner until I decided  whether I wanted to make the investment.  Well, on this week’s podcast I discuss my DIY kitchen cabinet project. If you recall, one topic I plan to share with my subscribers is DIY projects I like to attempt from time to time. So this week, I discuss what I did, why now, and offer tips for you to save money on your kitchen renovation ideas. You can view the before and after pictures by clicking on My Gallery. As always, I hope that you will leave a comment and subscribe.

A few things to take away from this week’s podcast include:

  • Save your money honey! There is nothing wrong with redesigning on a dime.
  • If you can’t afford to purchase new cabinets or even invest in re-facing, which is not cheap, investigate other alternatives you can do yourself.
  • Make it a fun girl or family get-together and have food, fun, and DIY night (or two)
  • Make a plan for how you will do breakfast/lunch/dinner over the course of the project
  • Do your research on products and application
  • Enjoy!

Quick Links

Youtube: Rustoleum Kitchen Cabinet Makeover





#001 When you become the Adult… Caring for your Elderly Parent(s)

This week’s podcast is a tribute to mothers with Gloria Lyons on navigating the season of caring for your parent.


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When you Become the Adult…

Caring for your Elderly Parents

Greetings All, thank you for visiting my blog, “Words that Matter”. I am excited to launch my blog page and I’m glad that you are here. If you want to get to know me, check out my “About Me” page. There you will learn why I started blogging and what I would like to share through my blog. As this is the launch of my blog and in honor of Mother’s Day, my first post will be about taking care of elderly parents. For me, I’m speaking of my mother. So read my first post below and don’t forget to like and comment. I appreciate any feedback that helps me improve my sight and the level of useful information for my subscribers. Since, I’m just starting, I’m sure I will be able to keep up with responses at this time. I hope the information this week is helpful. I will be adding a podcast this week on the topic of caring for parents. As you will note on my blog, I will organize my blogs into one of five categories. This post will be archived later under the purpose category because sometimes caring for parents becomes part of our purpose for a season.

Have you arrived at the transition in life where you are caring for a child you didn’t count on? No, not a child that you bore or adopted, but one that bore you. I’m talking about the season of life where maybe you’re in the prime of your career, advanced education, or you are preparing for retirement and find yourself having to care for and make some tough decisions concerning the welfare of your now elderly parent(s). The ones that cared for you. This is a time of tough decisions. Perhaps you gave up a lucrative career. Maybe you’ve made a great sacrifice in your just-me-and-him family unit. Oftentimes, we put our lives on hold to care for an elderly parent. It is no small sacrifice. You become the nurse, the secretary, the nutritionist, the maid. the accountant, and the one-on-one companion.
During this transition in life, it is imperative to have a friend, caregiver agency, or relative on hand to give you relief. Don’t try to be ‘Superwoman’. It is wise to seek and allow family members to assist during these times, particularly those that are willing to help. We worry if we are asking too much of our spouses, friends, and children in putting everything and everyone else aside to care for the person that cared for us and seemingly needs us the most.
Personal experience has taught me that providing a safe environment where your loved one can receive the care and attention they need is better in some cases. Depending on the mental age, level of self-help skills, and the level of supervision needed. Trying to take on all of these responsibilities over an extended period of time will definitely have its consequences for the caregiver and the family unit. Here are some tips if you find yourself in this transition of life:
1. Don’t try to be ‘Superwoman’
2. Guard against becoming the parent
3. Have a scheduled time for separations.
4. Plan regularly scheduled outings for spouse and children   without your elder parent
5. Ask for and accept offers of help from close friends and family members
6. Guard against bitterness AND guilt
7. When the time comes, prepare yourself for the inevitable fact that your parent may need more supervision and care than you are humanly possible of giving given circumstances like your own health, employment, prolonged deprivation of rest.
8. You must take care of you. After all, what will happen to mom/dad if you are sick or unable to care for them
9. Hug your parent(s) as often as you can
10. Pray for patience and strength!

Let me know if you found these tips or post helpful. Please don’t forget to leave a comment. Don’t forget to subscribe to my blog.